I only recently subscribed to Scott D. Clary’s newsletter. Like everything online, I really can’t remember HOW I came across his newsletter but I’m glad I did. His newsletter arrives on a Sunday, promising that you start your week with wisdom from the most successful people on the planet. Strategies, breakthrough habits, and powerful mindset shifts from ultra-high performers and leaders – turned into actionable insights to accelerate your success.

I was sitting in my office, contemplating the week ahead, mindlessly picked up my phone and started reading Scott’s latest newsletter.

“You’re preparing for a life you’ll never live.”

“This is me”, I thought, because if I’m honest, I’ve been doing just that.

Planning, positioning, refining, optimizing…TWEAKING. I am forever tweaking. It seems that I have been working toward a version of my life that’s close but as the days progress, the goalpost keeps moving. This could be a short descript of my life. Next week, next month, next year, in three years, in five years. You get the drift.

Scott sitting across from me in my in box told me basically that I am getting really good at managing my life, but not so great at living it!

I am a planner, a builder, an architect. I like clarity. I like direction. I like knowing what the next step is. It must make sense for me and when it doesn’t make sense, this equals mental confusion and disorientation.

There is a huge difference between having a plan—and constantly postponing your life because it isn’t “ready yet.”

I’ve been holding joy at arm’s length, waiting for some milestone to allow myself permission to feel good. I look at other people, living and I quietly wonder when exactly will it be my turn, as if someone out there is holding my key hostage, keeping it just ahead of me, where I see it, but can’t touch it. This is what you’d call avoidance.

My self talk…

I don’t need more systems or better habits or another 90-day plan. What I need is to live inside the life I’m designing—now. Not later. Not “once I’ve hit the goal.”

I will do as Marcus Aurelius wrote:

Confine myself to the present

And as Scott suggests, the very present I’ve been avoiding while optimizing for a future yet to come.

So my choices are not going to be big or dramatic. But I intend to make small daily decisions like…

• Going for the walk without rushing back to a screen
• Cooking something simple and actually tasting it
• Calling a friend just because
• Letting things be done, even if they’re not perfect

The Realization…

Strategic Alignment Isn’t Just a Business Thing

I talk a lot about alignment in teams, strategy, structure. But personal alignment? That’s where it starts. Because if I’m constantly chasing some future version of myself, I’m never really with me.

So I’m adjusting.

Not blowing things up. Just gently coming back to who I am…to my centre…to now. To this version of me who is already enough.

Strategic Alignment Prompt:

What version of life are you postponing right now?
What would it look like to stop preparing and start experiencing—even just for today?

If you’ve been building a life or business that looks great on paper but doesn’t feel quite right in practice, let’s talk.

A Clarity Conversation is a 30-minute session to pause, reflect, and get to the heart of what’s really misaligned—so you can move forward with more ease and less second-guessing.

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